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26 May 2019

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Marriage, traditions and customs to be respected

From the day of the week, to the veil of the bride, to the underwear, to the color of the dress of the bridesmaids, there are numerous superstitions that revolve around the marriage and to which you will not be able to escape! Grandmothers, mothers and aunts will be at your side to remind you, and if you have forgotten any, here is a small summary.

Let’s start with the choice of the date: according to what the ancient Neapolitan saying “of Venus and Mars does not marry and do not leave”, it is preferable not to schedule any wedding reception (or trip) on Friday or Tuesday, as they are considered wretched days. On Monday, a day dedicated to the moon, a bridal star and a bringer of good health, seems to be particularly favored.
The day of the week is not the only one to consider for the success of your marriage. According to the most common superstitions in fact, even the months have a particular value: January for example brings affection, kindness and loyalty; February is by far the best month, as a bearer of love and passion; March instead brings joys and sorrows; while April is considered among the most fortunate, as opposed to May, which seems the most inadvisable; June, July and August are all very fortunate and prosperous, but if you want to ensure a rich and economically wealthy life, then you just need to choose September; another month not recommended together with May is October, which does not guarantee anything good; finally, both November and December are classified, after February, as the best ones favored by tradition, as bearers of joy, happiness and eternal love.

Around the clothing revolve some traditions for the bride, to which almost all the girls, even the most skeptical, try to stick. Traditionally, in fact, we want the bride to bring her along on her wedding day; five things:

An old thing. This symbolizes the past, the whole life prior to marriage and the importance it covers. Every bride must carry with her an object belonging to the past in order not to forget it in the new path that is going to be taken;

A new thing. This as a symbol of the life that is about to begin and of the new challenges that this will bring with it;

One thing given. Obviously a loved one will lend an object, to symbolize that loved ones remain close even in the transition from old to new;

A present thing. This symbolizes the affection of the people who love each other;

A blue thing. Indicates sincerity and purity on the part of the bride. By tradition, this color will be the garter, worn in the case of full and covering skirts.

Alongside the best-known tradition of wearing the classic 5 things (loaned, given away, new, old, blue), for the bride there is an old custom that invites her to slip a penny inside her elegant shoes ( or from any symbolic value) to invoke the couple’s prosperity, well-being and wealth.

Another tradition for the bride, still very strong and alive, is that the future husband cannot see the wedding dress except at the time of the ceremony: seeing it first would bring immense misfortune. Always around the wedding dress, an ancient belief requires that the bride cannot look in the mirror before the ceremony and if she does not resist the temptation, she must do so by removing something, such as a shoe, veil or gloves. Finally, a typical tradition of Southern Italy wants the bride to wear a veil whose length is commensurate with the years of engagement: each year corresponds to a meter; the longer the veil is, the more years the young woman will have waited before taking the big step.

Also for the wedding rings the tradition is not lacking: these cannot absolutely fall during the ceremony and if, unfortunately they do it, then to collect them must be the priest or the State Officer.

Still, a very romantic tradition is that which sees both spouses engaged, the night before the wedding, to write a letter full of phrases of love and all wishes, to be closed in envelopes, to keep secretly and then read together on the day of the first anniversary wedding

Finally, if you think well of the traditions of marriage, you will immediately come to mind how many rituals can be linked to the launch: the rice, the doves, the butterflies, the bouquet of flowers and for the most daring the garter. Each launch has a very specific meaning: today rice is launched in memory of an ancient oriental legend thanks to which this cereal has become a symbol of abundance, fertility and joy; the doves are the symbol of indissoluble union by antonomasia, just for the typical characteristic of their species, therefore the launch is a wish of eternal love; the butterflies are the emblem of the color of purity and above all of transformation, here the spouses free them in the sky as a sign of transformation accomplished in their lives; the bouquet is thrown at the end of the party to a group of unmarried guests and whoever wins it will see the dream of getting married within a year come true; finally, the garter is paraded by the groom and thrown to a group of unmarried envoys and for the same logic of the bouquet, even in this case whoever wins it, will go to the altar within the year.